Each of us has our own good and bad that comes along with Bipolar Disorder. Some enjoy creativity, others enjoy euphoric highs. As for the lows, I don’t think I’d be wrong in saying there’s not one person who enjoys feeling worthless, helpless, hopeless or suicidal.
Now what’s one trait that almost universal for us? Worry. The worry we may relapse if we’ve been stable for awhile or that our current mood worsens. We’ve all been there and each and everyone of us mull these things over and over again in our heads. Some of us obsess over it, myself included.
That type of worry eventually turns to fear. Fear of the “what ifs” and the unknown. Personally it’s kept me from doing a lot of things in my life. I know I’ve missed out on a lot of opportunities. We think about these things more than most other people, and rightfully so. It’s a vital part of our recovery and stability.
I love TED Talks, especially those by Tim Ferriss. He’s very open about his own coexistence with Bipolar Disorder. He’s even spoken candidly about his suicidal thoughts and the time he almost follow through with it.
If you’re not familiar with him, go to Tim’s Blog. He is a very successful author and speaker – in spite of his mental illness, and maybe due in part to it. He really is an inspiration and proof that we can have Bipolar and be very successful in life and business.
One of his TED Talks really got my attention. It’s called “Why You Should Define Your Fears Instead of Your Goals”. Sounds kinda off since most of us try to silence or banish our fears but I watched it anyway and I loved it!
He tells us to tackle our fears head on. He encourages us to make a list of the worst possible outcomes in any situation that frightens us, then come up with ways to prevent them from happening or to repair the damage if they do. He certainly explains the concept better than I ever could. Give it a look.
This is a radical way of thinking for us but it’s one that I’m going to give a go. I will update this post in a few weeks with my experience. If it helps me banish some of my fears, I will be forever grateful to Tim.
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